Tim and Susan* walked into our office for their first-ever session of marital counseling. We detected right away the vast emotional disconnectedness between them. It required little expertise to do so. The atmosphere was like ice. They scooted their chairs a few more inches apart as they sat across from us. They both leaned on the outside armrests and looked straight ahead. If body language were audible, theirs would have been shouting: “WE ARE MILES APART!”
Great teams not only share great ideas; they set great goals – together. And, great goals come from great hopes, convictions, aspirations, beliefs and desires that become deeply rooted within the hearts of team members.
I [Pamela here] have now come to realize that “two [really] are better than one” (cf., Ecclesiastes 4:9-12) in so many areas of marriage, including parenting. This showed up a number of years ago clearly when dealing with our one and only son. Rob has been surrounded with women most of his life as child #3. He has two sisters older and one younger. The girls often felt like we were deferring to Rob’s wants more than theirs, but the truth is that raising boys is SO much different than raising girls. The girls, on the other hand, expected a lot of their dad’s time and attention. As a result, he treated them like princesses while leaving Rob to just “man-up”. So at times I endeavored to even the odds for Rob who sometimes felt outnumbered by all these “women” in our home.
I [Robert here] have taught many classes on Counseling. One of the questions I always bring to the first lecture is this: “In one word, what is the goal of counseling?” The responses among students usually vary widely and include words such as: “healing”, “emotional repair”, “understanding”, “honesty”, “forgiveness”, and the list goes on. However, the word we invariably end up agreeing on is this: “wholeness.” The goal of counseling is ultimately helping a wounded, hurting, discouraged or broken person experience a greater measure of wholeness in life.
The Wall Street Journal acknowledged that the United States Military academies are “the best business schools in the nation.” (Scott Snair, West Point Leadership Lessons (Naperville, IL: SourceBooks, Inc., 2004, ix.) Foremost among them is West Point Academy in New York that is especially renowned for equipping cadets, and future business leaders, with teambuilding skills and insights. Continue reading “The Place That Builds the “Best” Teams”